REALISING IMPORTANCE OF WORK-LIFE BALANCE. DEALING WITH STRESS

I am back from my holiday and happy to be writing my blog posts again. The holiday was in Hungary,  Budapest, where I went with a friend Gillian who had been there several times before. She told me about the wonderful healing waters of Hungary and how good they were for general health and relaxation. So I could not resist. Especially because I needed a holiday really badly.

The past 18 months have been truly stressful in many ways. My daughter is a teenager, and last year I had to deal with a bad case of her being bullied at school by a group of boys. She is in many ways a different child, a bit of  a rebel, and stands out among her peers.  She is very artistic, and has exquisite tastes in clothes and personal appearance, forever experimenting with it – having shaved a side of her head, and stretched her ears in the past (which was one of the causes of stress for me incidentally).
The bullying started escalating, and Alex was coming home more and more subdued. I decided to ring the school, even though I was forbidden by my daughter from doing it.  But I had to. It took some time to sort it out, but luckily they were efficient and dealt with it quickly. The bullying stopped after that, but it did leave its scars.

While the bullying was going on, my daughter developed anorexia. It lasted 18 months. She started skipping meals at school, then lying that she had eaten loads, then refusing to let me cook for her. She was eating cereal for breakfast, skipping lunch, and had some fruit for dinner. Her body weight plummeted, and I had to take her to the doctors, but it was a wasted journey, and we dealt with it ourselves. Alex realised that she could not go on like this, and started eating little by little. She is much better now luckily, and has gained her weight back, but all the stresses took a toll on my health. And apart from it, we argued continuously about almost everything. To add to it financial worries, and I can honestly say that I was at breaking point a couple of weeks ago.  So the holiday was truly a salvation…

Hungary was beautiful. The spas are very very old, are incredibly well run, and are very pretty inside and outside. The waters are full of sulphur and its components, which is said to do wonders for joints and the skin, as well as general health. There are a number of pools in each spa, all at different temperatures – from 40 down to 16 degrees C. We spent 4 full days (out of the 6) in them. All of my aches and pains were gone even after the first day.  And the mind and body were in a state of total bliss.I cannot recommend it highly enough. Considering the prices – 10 euro for 1 day in a spa, we had an incredible deal. It was a very low cost holiday. So if you feel stressed and are into spas – go to Hungary! We also visited the biggest lake in Europe – Balaton. It was a hot day and a bit of a painful journey – the train stopped several times without any announcements being made, but we managed to get there. It was a day of the regata, which we did not know about, so there were lots of sail boat out in the lake. The lake itself is very shallow, but vast and beautiful.

My holiday has made me realise how important it is to take regular breaks, and not grind myself to the ground with work and family issues. I also realised that my daughter and I needed a break from each other to avoid getting dissolved in each other’s issues.

I am a workaholic by nature. I work until 3-4 am sometimes. Rest and relaxation are the last on my list of priorities. Somehow I used to think that the more I spend in front of the computer, the more productive I would be. But the result is totally different. I have realised that combined with the various family issues, my punishing work schedule is actually taking me in the opposite direction from success. It is making me ill while not letting me achieve what I want, since I am too tired and stressed to work productively.

So, as a result of my holiday and thinking afterwards, I have made the following pledge to myself:

• Plan my day the day before
• Work to a timer
• Have a 15 minute break after  90-minutes of  work
• Have 1-hour break after every 4 hours of work – go for a walk
• Keep my head cool and make every effort not to get stressed over anything – be constructive rather than self-destructive in the way I react to events
• Eat healthily – less rubbish which clogs the system, more light foods like salads and soups
• Exercise regularly – at least twice a week  for an hour (swimming does it for me!)
• Walk every night (I do it anyway, so it’s an easy pledge)
• Take regular breaks away from home, at least for a weekend, every 6-8 weeks
• Stay away from “energy suckers” and surround myself with positive people
• Stop worrying about what other people think about me, because it really does not matter
• Shift focus back onto myself and my own life rather than other people and relationships.

Has there been a turning point in your life which made you rethink  the way you live it, and want to make changes – either major or just some adjustments? I would love to hear what you have to say!

Supervision and Personal Therapy for Counselors, Psychotherapists, and Psychologists

Whilst a particular degree of guidance is obligatory, do guarantee that, as your method expands, your guidance hrs show your raised instance tons. BACP recognized specialists are anticipated to have a minimum of one and also a fifty percent hrs of individual guidance monthly for those months that they are seeing customers. Specialists that are not certified would certainly be a good idea to utilize this as a minimum benchmark for their very own guide. Do the show on your own on your individual demands, as well as raise your guidance where essential.

There are unique disagreements for using guidance for specialists secretive method. Personal Practice is, in a feeling, a separated line of work. Unlike functioning within a therapy company or organization, where you’ll typically have consistent chances for discussion, peer guidance, academic conversations as well as a recognition of practice techniques of others. You might have one-to-one and/or team guidance offered by the solution whereas functioning alone indicates that, where you desire to give on your own with such possibilities you should be pro-active in setting up both casual and also official guidance setups. Do not overlook this crucial location of your technique.

Personal treatment is truly simply that. As a knowledgeable expert, you’ll understand the assistance it could provide you, as well as just how frequently you require this help. It is not necessary, so it is a totally individual choice. Numerous specialists that located individual treatment valuable in training, proceed with the exact same specialist once they have actually certified. Offered this matches you, merely proceed by doing this. There is a disagreement to state that, where individual treatment is additionally a specialist growth device, altering specialists from time to time offers a more comprehensive sight of various methods from both an individual and also academic sight. You could desire to think about the advantages of this strategy.

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Consulting A Good Family Lawyer in Edmonton Alberta

Do you need to consult with a good family lawyer? Do you want to learn more about a situation that you are dealing with? Are you looking to change some things in your life? If so, you will likely find that a family lawyer is someone that can help you along the way. You can get some helpful tips by reading the following article.

First of all, you will want to find and consult top family lawyer. There are some different ways that you can go about it. You can talk with trusted people in your life to learn about any recommendations that you may have. Another option is to take your search online. By taking some time to learn about the family lawyers that are in your area and learning about their reputation, you can start to decide who you want to consult.

After you have carefully researched your options, you can contact a family lawyer to make an appointment for a consultation. When you call and set up a meeting, you may want to briefly share your situation and ask the person you speak with what type of information they will want you to bring to the meeting. This will help provide the attorney with the most information possible and allow them to help you make the best possible decisions.

Then, you will want to begin preparing to have a consultation with a good family lawyer. During this time, you can gather the important documents that the attorney may want to use to help them put together relevant information. You may also find that it will be helpful to write down the crucial details of your situation. This can help provide you with an outline of what you would like to share with the family attorney. While you may have lived through the whole situation, but it is easy to leave out important details when you are sharing it with others. So, when you have notes to refer to, it can be quite helpful for you and the attorney you are consulting with.

Finally, you will have your consultation with the family lawyer. This is the time you will be able to share your situation with a legal professional. It is important that you are thorough and honest as this will help the lawyer best help lead you in the right way. You should answer their questions the best you can. However, if you are unable to share an answer, let them know. It is a good idea, too, to ask the questions that you have. By doing so, you can gain helpful information that will help you to make important decisions.

As you can see, there are some different things that you can do when you are looking to consult with a good family lawyer. Use the tips that are shared in this article to help you in your situation so you can get the most information possible from the attorney and have the best possible outcome.